As an NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) practitioner, I understand the power of language. Every word we use is imbued with multiple personal meanings and language shapes our behaviour.
Love can be given with the right words spoken in a certain way, or wars created with words. If we want to achieve our goals, we must orchestrate our Speech to bring our dreams to fruition.
The greatest leaders and progressive thinkers of our world I’ve always use the power of words to transform our emotions to create change to inspire or manipulate individuals or the masses, just think of Winston Churchill’s Speech to Martin Luther, it becomes evident words shape our entire existence.
But what about our own words in our own life. How do our words make our life better to inspire change? As a personal coach, the words I use have meaning from the heart as I see the full potential to make the change in those, I have the honour to connect with. It’s sometimes so subtle it’s
unconscious, the words are not pre-thought. Sometimes just one conversation with someone can make such an impact on their whole life with someone completely changing their whole perception of themselves and changing direction to a better path for them. Just through a conversation with someone which may seem quite casual I’ve seen the most profound changes in people when they’ve realised who they really are and stop the old patterns of behaviour.
I’m often astounded that one conversation can change someone’s life so drastically. I believe it’s the meaning behind the words and the intention that is the key for self-realisation in others. The coach’s not about telling people what to do it’s about them realising who they really are and what they’re worth and reaching their full potential as I can sometimes see in them and they can’t as their mind is clouded with old outdated beliefs about themselves.
I have such pride in those people that make those changes in their life and see them fly. Behind the words is a human being with love and respect for that person and that conveys into their heart. Coaching is a very personal thing I have found my own way to help my clients over the years, it’s unstructured in many ways.
As I have mentioned in a previous blog about how I got into coaching through coaching myself on knowingly and changing my whole path in life to what I really need to want to do being honest with myself about who I am and what I want taught me how to be with others utilising what they want what they say about themselves.
The coaching that I trained in with Newcastle College doing a diploma and the certificate was very much based with NLP and this happened just after I had qualified as a hypnotherapist.so in some ways my coaching combines with the understanding of the unconscious mind and patterns in more than just language, but words themselves change lives. The words that I use with clients are never scripted. When I first started using hypnotherapy I admit I did use scripts to a degree but for me, they were the training wheels of learning my art before trusting in my intuition and utilising what my clients were telling me or sometimes not saying as words are not always the truth.
I’ve witnessed the power that one keyword can have on an individual in the way that they feel and behave. Changing habitual vocabulary in expressing emotions can change how you think, feel and live instantly. Making your internal vocabulary more positive will amaze you how the positive external experiences you have will manifest. This is the power of transformational vocabulary which is consciously using your words to improve and therefore change your life.
WHAT IS YOUR HABITUAL VOCABULARY?
With all the words out there most of us only use a tiny fraction of them limiting ourselves. Yet the English language contains some 500,000 words! So how many words make up our habitual vocabulary? For most averages around 200 to 300 words and how many are being used to describe negative emotions-about two-thirds.
With all these readily available ways of expressing our feelings and ideas, it’s a shame we are comfortable with such impoverished vocabulary. Our brains are working at high speeds with processing information and working to become more efficient but as a result, we resort to the same words over and over again. Often shortcuts are created that short-change as emotionally.
EMOTIONAL WORDS
As a coach, I sometimes ask my clients to make a list of the emotions they feel at least once a week. Give it a go now take about 10 minutes and write down all the emotions you feel at least once a week and see what you come up with. Astonishingly most clients write more than 50% as negative.
Does this surprise you in any way? I find that people use the words for their bad feelings are more readily available and remembered. Have you ever thought about the words you use habitually and how it may be affecting your life.? Have you noticed how often you may use the word try or how often other people use that word? It was one of the first things I learnt when training as a hypnotherapist that the word try was very weak and a demonstration was conducted by my instructor when she said to try and take something from her hands as opposed to just take it if someone says they’re going to try and do Something or be somewhere it’s unlikely they won’t. If we say we are going to do something, as the Nike slogan, just do it, it has more power.
As negative words impact us in a negative way I think about it in another light what if you were to say the positive words and how that would affect you positively write down positive words now as many as you can and think about how happy and fulfilled your life can be just by changing your words. The problem is a default setting in the unconscious isn’t to consciously choose our words to describe our emotions. The words we attach to our experience become our experience as words have a biochemical effect on the body the minute you use the word like devastated you’re going to produce a very different by a chemical affects then if you say for example I’m a bit disappointed.
So, you now you can see how words can change your life and as your coach, I can help you achieve this.
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